Strengthen Your Resilience Muscle
I’ve had an increase in clients who state that they want to become more resilient. Resilience has up until relatively recently been researched within the developmental and clinical fields but it is now entering the organizational psychology field. Research suggests that resilience is one of four essential psychological capabilities for successful leadership, in addition to confidence, hope and optimism. But what exactly is resilience?
Reslient people are able to utilise their skills and strengths to cope and recover from problems and challenges, which may include organizational change, job loss, setting up a business, illness, natural disasters, divorce or the death of a loved one. Those who lack resilience may instead feel overwhelmed by such experiences. They may dwell on problems and use unhealthy coping mechanisms to deal with such challenges. Resilience does not eliminate stress or erase difficulties in life. The good news is that most people are very capable of learning the skills that it takes to become more resilient.
Tips to increase your resilience.
1. Develop a Strong Social Network
Having caring, supportive people around you acts as a protective factor during times of crisis. It is important to have people you can confide in and who can give practical support. Think about the people who are close to you, write their names. Think about how you can nurture these relationships. Then write the names of people or organisations you would like to contact then decide how and when you will bring these people closer to you.
2. Set Goals to Problem Solve
Resilient people are able to view crisis situations in a realistic way, and then set reasonable goals to deal with the problem. When you find yourself becoming overwhelmed by a situation, take a step back to assess what is before you. Clearly define the problem. Brainstorm possible solutions, evaluate the solutions and then break down the chosen solution into manageable steps. Ask yourself, what will you have to do and also what will you have to stop?
3. Embrace Change
Flexibility is an essential part of resilience. By learning how to be more adaptable, you will be better equipped to respond when faced with a life crisis. If you are feeling stressed by a change, ask yourself, what am I reacting to? What is happening with my thoughts, emotions, sensations? What meaning am I giving it?